The Blogmopolitan Quiz
Posted on Friday, February 28, 2014

Let me start this one off by saying, I'm a little hungover. It has been a minute since I went out and drank like I did last night hence the 27 going on 21 experience. I was faded (which was stupid because I sat and stayed at our table the entire night). Anyway, just putting it out there just in case I say something or destruct myself with the answers I'm about to give this quiz.

Erin via Two Thirds Hazel came up with this brilliant idea and I hope you head over there too, grab your own Blogmopolitan Quiz and fill it out! Let me know when you do, I would like to read it :)


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Menstrual Monday
Posted on Monday, February 24, 2014

I have been nursing a terrrrrible case of dysmenorrhea today. No bueno! I got rid of my old birth control hence the new flow and it's a machine! [Sorry for the TMI.] Thank goodness for these home remedies, on the third day, it's mellowed quite a bit.

For you, just in case you face the same #girlprobs in the future:


1. 1c pineapple juice + 1/2c lemon juice to stimulate bleeding.

2. Iron supplements to restore blood in your body.

3. Muscle relaxers to help you move around. The backache and abdominal pains are no joke.

4. Warm water, instead of cold, to avoid bloating.

5. Water-based fruit may also help such as: watermelon, cucumber, and berries.

6. Avoid heavy carbs, alcohol, and carbonated beverages that would cause bloating.

7. No coffee, instead, drink some ginger tea.

8. And apply pressured heat on your lower abdomen and lower back to decrease pain (use a heating pad or towelette soaked in hot water).

Geez, and men say women have it so easy. Screw that. And this is a monthly ordeal for most of us! Granted we normally use this as as an excuse to act a certain way, it's still not a fair reason to be mean or bitchy to people around us. Exercise or any physical activity will help your release endorphins aka happy hormones. I know, I know, it can be uncomfortable working out while bleeding out of your vagina. But there's a bike you can sit on for 20 minutes. That should be enough to help you avoid being the cranky one in the office. :)

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Moving On
Posted on Saturday, February 22, 2014

It has been quite a break, let me tell you. I haven't actively blogged (although I honestly intended to) because I have been dealing with something personal, which I won't dig more into. Let's just say that I'm currently single, and although we've ended it in better terms than expected, I am focusing more on myself and detering any romantic prospects. For now at least.

Break-ups are a bitch. (For lack of a better word.) Nobody wants to go through it, nobody wants to face it, nobody wants it period. It is difficult, especially when you feel like you have shared a life with that particular person --- life meaning: families of each side are involved, assets, the commitment, and countless memories --- there is no easy way of throwing it all away.

But there are ways to help you, us, move on quite easier than locking ourselves in a room, with tubs of ice cream and racks of ribs. That's just not going to work.


It is OKAY to cry. So cry!
Yes, grieving is perfectly normal. Heck, even I alienated myself for a good couple of days from the world. Time alone is absolutely necessary. Reflect, remember the good things, your rejuvenated freedom, and all the possibilities. Of course you will miss him, everyday, for a very long time. But this break or break-up happened for a reason, that's the truth we all have to face at some point. It is OK to cry. Cry it all out, damn it! Cry it to the point where you can't feel you can cry anymore. That time will come, I promise.

Assert your strengths and list down things you want to accomplish alone.
I decided I needed time for myself to go back to school and learn the fundamentals of being a successful business woman, and also to seek opportunities to start my entrepreneurship. It wasn't an easy decision but being single could be an advantage. Less stress, more focus, and more time to spend thinking about and accomplishing goals --- these all seem to be positives, not reasons to frown about. So venture out! Do things you have always wanted to do that were put in the back burner, may it be pursuing a career or traveling the world. DO YOU.

Maybe you are also due for a makeover.
The last two times I went through a rough breakup, I drastically cut my hair into a bob --- of which both times, I regretted for a long time. I adore my medium length hair and I guess, it's time to change something else. I enrolled in a gym and have been moderately using it. Walking the treadmill while watching an episode of Grey's Anatomy on Netflix is a great start. But you may need a haircut! Why not? Get some new layers, a new hair color, or brush up on your make-up skills, get some gel nails, or shop a whole new wardrobe. We have to admit the harsh truth, we do let a piece of ourselves go when we get into a serious relationship. (I gained 40 lbs, yikes!) So get rid of the daily sweatpants routine and get that glamour you once had.


Create a new hobby.
Spring is around a corner too, girl! Go for a hike, buy a bike, fly a kite! (Yes, I purposefully tried to rap.) There are tons of things you can get into. Not to mention, a new TV show addiction on Netflix, why not! Anything to keep you busy and away from the thoughts of loneliness. Because you are not lonely. You are strong and determined to move on. So do it! I recently got into DIY (thanks Pinterest) and have been redecorating my room. Cooking, shopping or both! Find a hobby that will enhance your skills set, personality, and knowledge. It will be time well spent.

Love yourself...more than you would love anything/anyone.
It is true when the old folks say, the only way to fully invest your love into someone is by doing the same with yourself first. I've had self-esteem issues since I was a teenager which oftentimes resulted in depression and negativity. Not cool! I started going out in college and found happiness around my friends. I reckoned that spending quality time with family and friends made me a chipper person in general. Surround yourself with people who love you for you, that way, you will learn to love yourself more and more each day. Go out with the girls! Put a pretty dress on and sashay into a nightclub. Boost your self esteem by talking to strangers and making new friends. You are single, you are free to do whatever you feel. But remember to always love yourself and stay classy.

Moving on isn't easy, but it does become easier looking at it optimistically. So give yourself a day or two to dwell on the past, pour it all out, and eat one (just ONE) Ben & Jerry's pint. After that, you need to snap out of it, put your Beyonce on, and move on with life. Because it is beautiful and so are you. Don't let it go to waste. After all, it's a just a boy. ;)

[Photo credits: Huffington Post, Little Leopard Book]

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